Tuesday, May 01, 2007

Tough days

Yesterday was one of those days that make you cry. Not from the usual emotional part of motherhood, but the sheer physical exhaustion of motherhood.

Laundry day is exhausting, not to mention a day of homeschooling, feeding, training, listening, cleaning, and chasing after a baby who is very busy these days.

But I am reminded of something John Piper said: We are not called to a life of ease, but a life of glory. And these momments, details, chores, must continually be done for His glory. I keep saying it, and believing it, anyway, although doing laundry for 6 people might make you question it.

Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18

23 comments:

Llama Momma said...

Thank you, Andrea. I needed to hear this tonight! (She says as she gets ready to collapse into bed at 8:30...)

Sarah said...

tomorrow is my laundry day, I feel you sister! And I just have laundry for four. I so much enjoy your posts. I don't always get to comment on each one, but I read them just the same. Thanks for your heart and insight. The Lord has spoken to me through many of them. Stop by sometime:)
Sarah

Mama Monk said...

What an encouragement!

I had a horrible day yesterday! And it was laundry day. wow. I kept wondering to myself how to make laundry day less hectic and overwhelming. Any suggestions? Did you learn anything yesterday that you would do differently next time? I would love to hear any insights.

I am with you, feeling the frustration. It IS the sheer physical exhaustion that makes a day feel dark and overwhelming.

And it sounds like you have also had a winter of illness. That alone, can be overwhelming. It's so difficult to get into any sort of routine.

As I read, I prayed that you would feel a lightness of heart as you sleep tonight. That tomorrow you will wake up refreshed.

Thank you for sharing, Andrea.

Amy Jane said...

I connect *absolutely* everything back to sleep (or lack there of).

Sometimes I feel like I'm not even allowed to cry about "real" things that trouble me (modern day slavery and persecution come to mind) because the grief I feel is expanded by my weariness.

To anybody but my mom, I suppose I seem amazingly compassionate or sensitive in those moments.

My mom just stops listening after a while and says, "Why don't you go upstairs and take a nap?"

Don't you hate it when someone knows you that well...?

Andrea said...

Sarah--
I have tried before to click on your profile for your site, but it doesn't seem to work...I would love to visit-what is your blog address?

Mama Monk--I was just thinking that myself on Monday: how can I make laundry day less exhausting...one thought that came to me was plan to make a simple dinner..also to wash towels on Saturday, so a lot of the laundry is out of the way...if you come up with anything, let me know!
Thank you for your sweet prayer.

Amy--Yes, you've hit it. *Most* problems can be solved with a nap...I firmly believe. :)
You have a very gracious mama! (Does she watch the children while you nap?--that is bliss!)

tonia said...

You have had a tough week!

Moment by moment He gives strength and courage...it's true. Sometimes I want Him to just pour it out though, instead of handing it out moment by moment! :)

Sending love and prayers for you...and virtual chocolate.

Janel said...

After being without a washer for 2 weeks - it broke - I sooo feel your pain!!

{hugs} I hope you've recovered this morning. :)

Trina said...

That is such a great verse to focus on. I'll be putting that one on my list to memorize for days like you speak of. Hope your week gets better.
Blessings,

Anonymous said...

Do smaller loads throughout the week at night after children are in bed..Love ya, Your favorite aunt

Anonymous said...

I used to do all the laundry on Monday and then every Monday was a stressful day. Now that you are caught up, do 1-2 loads on Wed. and then whatever you have left on Fri. Then Monday morning won't be as overwhelming. Monday will still be the biggest laundry day but not as bad. On the Wed/Fri wash days I try to do towels, sheets, etc. We have 6 in our family and I started this a couple of years ago and it really helps Mommy, plus you go into the weekend without the HUGE MOUND staring at you!!
Jamie

L.L. Barkat said...

You know, I finally realized something. Kids can fold clothes. And they can put them away too. (I think miss Tami F. tried to impress this on me a while back but I didn't believe it!)

Things aren't quite as neat in my little one's drawer this way, but I am a much happier camper. And it's fun to fold together. We end up chit chatting in unexpectedly delightful ways.

Andrea said...

L.L.
I'm not talking about folding--I get plenty of help with that.
I'm talking about the loads and loads of washing and drying laundry all. day. long.--which would be exhausting in itself, but coupled with everything else that "Must" get done, it exhausts me. :)
That's why I was thinking...how can I make this easier. :)

Amy Jane said...

If I'm at her house she'll watch them, but if I'm that tired and at her house, odds are it's b/c my DH is out of town.

In those moments it's hard to be rational and take the nap b/c my mind is ready to explode will all the unsaid talk.

That's what I meant by the line "she just stops listening to me."

*MichiganMomma* said...

I have asked the Lord to really send me verses to memorize. I am terrible at it, can't handle more than a few at a time, so I wanted the Lord to really choose them for me. What did HE want me to focus on?

He has (of course) been faithful! 2Cor 4:16-18 is precisely what I need at this time. Thank you so much!

btw, we are also a family of six (although they are still pretty little) and I can't even IMAGINE doing laundry only one day a week. While I am working on ways to cut back (wearing an article of clothing until it is actually DIRTY), we still do laundry every day. And we won't officially homeschool until this fall - girl, I feel your pain, no, your exhaustion...

~Lori

goodlikeamedicine said...

I do 2-3 loads FIRST thing Monday and Thursday and ignore it the rest of the week to save my sanity. I sneak downstairs while my husband and kids are still asleep. Laundry is all I allow myself to do on those days - if the bathroom is dirty or floor needs mopping, I just ignore and say it will get done another day.

I don't know why, but I find that if I don't get the first wet load into the dryer and another load into the washer by breakfast on Monday morning, it hardly ever gets put away by dinnertime. I can't seem to figure out that one! But when it gets rolling in the early hours, the whole day goes smoothly and I don't crash before it's put away. I seem to do a lot more in Spring/Summer, too, than cold-weather months...I wonder if it's because of outdoor playtime and sweat, etc. :)

goodlikeamedicine said...

ps - "24 Hours is all you get" (from Vision Forum) really gave me the affirmative thinking to free me up to schedule days for only certain things and ignoring the other things that can be done on other assigned days... and when i have those days where my laundry seems to be growing inside the dryer and I feel overwhelmed, I just say, "well, I've done all I can do for one day!"

(know you know this - just trying to cheer and encourage!)

goodlikeamedicine said...

whew! brain-dead!

sorry for the broken link :)

vision forum

Andrea said...

Kristi
I will check out the link--thank you for the encouragment.
That is precisely why I do laundry on one day..I do not like to do it throughout the week--I like to do it, and get it done, and that's it.
However, I am reassessing this, and I think I must make it two days.

dorothy said...

Yesterday HAD to be my cleaning day, so I feel your pain. When I finally fell into bed, I felt like I had climbed Mt. Everest!! As for laundry, I do one load each day, as early in the day as I can, and that way it never feels like a huge burden. Usually, it's one of the more peaceful times of my day and I actually enjoy it - this is helped greatly by an outdoor clothesline which gets me out early in the morning by myself. Occasionally, I'll have to play catch up (like yesterday I wound up doing 5 loads just to get every last piece done). I bought this great laundry sorter at K-Mart - Martha Stewart. It has three huge sections which each hold a full load. Plus, since it's Martha, it looks nice, too:)
I'm keeping you in prayer, partner.

Christine said...

Love that quote. And I love your post on quality time in the ER. It shows that children don't care where they are as long as they are comforted and loved.

Elise said...

Amen, Andrea. You are such an encouragement to all of us!
We are all in the same position - and we need to hear it from each other to be reminded that we're not alone. And tying it into Scripture is the most important thing - and you always do that!

bluemountainmama said...

wow...laundry for six. we're only a family of three and it's still hard to keep up with laundry. hope you get some rest and enjoy your retreat!

Anonymous said...

yes! thank you, thank you.