My husband and I have purposely made a decision in our parenting that we are not the "god" of our children. We certainly do not control them, nor do we control the outcome of them. It is madness to try to orchestrate every detail of their life. We can't do it with our own life, so why do we think we could do it with theirs?
Don't get me wrong. We are parents who are very involved in our children's lives. We are involved in their decision making, involved in setting boundaries for them, (notice I didn't say "rules") involved and attentive in influencing them, but we try to parent with much grace. God's grace, that is. 'Cause if we didn't have that, well--it wouldn't be pretty. For them or us.
It is hard to let my teen go. I have no choice but to trust her and ultimately trust God who knows all things.
Trusting God doesn't mean that all things will fall into place the way I want them to. Trusting God with my teen doesn't mean she won't make a mistake or a bad choice. She is a human, a sinful human--as we all are. And all our attempts at parenting her "the right way" doesn't always mean that she will "turn out all right." My husband and I just try to be obedient to Him, leaving the outcome to Him. That's trusting Him.
I have come to the point in my parenting journey that I have to be okay with my kids making mistakes. I have to trust God that even if they don't make the right choice, that in the end He "does all for the good of those who love Him."(Romans 8:28) And even if I don't see that good in this lifetime, I still have to trust Him.