Friday, June 18, 2010

Reflections on Communication

"The sturdy, dependable nature of a piece of mail is really the crux of its charm. Mail has long been a way of showing that you've taken the time to consider what you want to say to someone; phone calls and even emails don't require the same level of reflection....."
from the book Obsolete by Anna Jane Grossman

Personally, when it comes down to it, I prefer face to face interaction. Details, facial expressions, body language all get lost in email. Phone calls come a close second to face to face. At least it's conversation in real time.

Now, I'm not against email per se. It has its place. I use it all the time! It's easy and convenient, especially for a busy mother like me. But there's just something to be said about picking up the phone, or face-to-face to connection with someone.

Letter writing is a whole other thing. It takes time and thought, more so than email and phone to compose and write thoughts. Such a gift!
April was National Letter Writing Month but that doesn't mean that you can't start writing letters now! Sara recently wrote a fabulous post on letter writing that has even inspired me and a few friends of mine scattered across the country to start our own "Red Robin Letter" group! I am really looking forward to it!

"Modern technology, however, has made the impossible possible. We can go through all the niceties of making plans without any of the follow-through, allowing us to let people think we want to see them without actually having to inconvenience ourselves to that extent. If you're feeling lazy or if something better has come along, there's no need to do jumping jacks before dialing the cancelee's number in order to convince her how exhausted and overextended you are, or to force your daughter to cry in the background to back up your claim of being held hostage by an enraged toddler--a simple "I'm crazy busy today, can we reschedule?" via email or text message does the job. There may still be some feelings of guilt involved, which is why we often wait until the last minute to cancel in the hopes that the other person might do the job first." ~Obsolete


Linda said...

Every once in a while I find a little
envelope in my mailbox with my granddaughter's return address in the corner. Absolute joy!!
You are so right Andrea (and I love the quotes). My Mom has a little ministry of letter writing and sending actual cards in the mail. She has touched so many lives.

Thank you for this sweet reminder.

Anonymous said...

So true. There's something so warm and ladylike about the "obsolete" things our grandmas did: writing letters instead of e-mails, wearing house dresses instead of sweats, baking from scratch instead of buying from the store, and a zillion other little things that lend a touch of grace and class to the a lady's character.
Still, I'm thankful for the modern options! ~L

Aimee said...

This is a great post that I just read:

Am waiting patiently for the round robin :) it provokes giddiness and such!

tonia said...

me too! :)