When you go through a tough time in your life, you really find out who your true friends are.
You go through the fire, and what comes out is either burned up or refined beautifully.
That's a hard lesson no matter what.
I have learned what true friendship is.
I consider it to be love in action.
Because.....love IS action. It's phone calls, cards, a surprise visit, a special lunch made for especially you for your birthday, it's thoughtful words, a phone call to encourage or offer help, it's pursuing one another, making the effort towards friendship.
It's thinking of others before yourself.
It's stopping to talk with a hurting sister who calls when your house is bursting with craziness and your kids are yelling and your kitchen is a mess and you go and hide for 10 minutes to pray with her, away from the mess and noise, (or right in the middle of it) because she is deeply hurting and you sense it in the phone call and you want to minister to her because God says that's what we do--we are part of a body and we can't do it on our own. And so we help each other and encourage each other.
And sometimes it takes going the extra EXTRA EXTRA mile and doing what you think you simply cannot.
Like when you think: I don't have time for this, but you do it anyway knowing that it is what the Lord would have you do.
Like my sweet friend who offered to bring my family dinner, when I was struggling in my life, and she had just had her fifth child a month before, and I said, "Girl, you are NOT bringing me a meal, you just had a baby!", but I treasure(d) that gesture deep, deep, in my heart and I knew she loved me, she really loved me as a friend and a sister of the Lord.
And it's like a busy sister of the Lord who asks how she can pray for me and faithfully does, and remembers my requests and asks me how it is going.
It's just opening your eyes and seeing the need and trying to encourage a sister in that need.
"She’s a woman like Marlene who shows up unexpected in the middle of some crazy morning with a bouquet of yellow roses in hand and she says she believes in me and God and whatever is to come and she prays before she leaves. I dry her roses and this is what I will preserve, a friendship that gives like this because there’s no currency in the world that can buy you this and this is the only treasure worth storing up, love.
She’s a woman like Megan and I open a note from her and I laugh wonder when I find this picture of her holding a square of cardboard scrawled with the words, “Run the Race, friend!” and another picture too, her holding the back side of the cardboard and the words, “You can do it!”
And we can. We can do it.
We can believe that God alone is our security and love is always worth the risk and there is no better investment than reaching out to someone and locking arms and unlocking your heart. No better investment than finding the time for friendship and the courage to be real and the humility to say we’re sorry."
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